You can’t be a victim and heal.
Meaning of the quote
The quote means that it's hard to get better or move on from a bad experience if you keep thinking of yourself as a victim. Instead, you need to take responsibility for your own healing and growth, rather than blaming others or your circumstances. When you stop seeing yourself as a helpless victim, you can start to take steps to improve your life and become a stronger, healthier person.
About A. J. Langer
A. J. Langer is an American former actress best known for her roles in Baywatch and My So-Called Life. She was born in 1974 and is commonly referred to by her stage name, A. J. Langer, rather than her full name Allison Joy Langer, Countess of Devon.