Life is a process of becoming, a combination of states we have to go through. Where people fail is that they wish to elect a state and remain in it. This is a kind of death.

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Life is about constantly changing and growing. We all go through different stages in our lives. The problem is that some people try to stay in one stage forever, and this is like being dead - they stop moving forward and improving themselves.

About Anais Nin

Angela Anais Juana Antolina Rosa Edelmira Nin y Culmell was a French-born American diarist, essayist, novelist, and writer of short stories and erotica. Born to Cuban parents in France, Nin was the daughter of the composer Joaquin Nin and the classically trained singer Rosa Culmell.

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A leaf fluttered in through the window this morning, as if supported by the rays of the sun, a bird settled on the fire escape, joy in the task of coffee, joy accompanied me as I walked.

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Age does not protect you from love. But love, to some extent, protects you from age.

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How wrong it is for a woman to expect the man to build the world she wants, rather than to create it herself.

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Each contact with a human being is so rare, so precious, one should preserve it.

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If all of us acted in unison as I act individually there would be no wars and no poverty. I have made myself personally responsible for the fate of every human being who has come my way.

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Dreams are necessary to life.

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If you do not breathe through writing, if you do not cry out in writing, or sing in writing, then don’t write, because our culture has no use for it.

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Do not seek the because – in love there is no because, no reason, no explanation, no solutions.

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I postpone death by living, by suffering, by error, by risking, by giving, by losing.

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Good things happen to those who hustle.

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We travel, some of us forever, to seek other states, other lives, other souls.

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There are many ways to be free. One of them is to transcend reality by imagination, as I try to do.

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Anxiety is love’s greatest killer. It makes others feel as you might when a drowning man holds on to you. You want to save him, but you know he will strangle you with his panic.

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Love never dies a natural death. It dies because we don’t know how to replenish it’s source. It dies of blindness and errors and betrayals. It dies of illness and wounds; it dies of weariness, of witherings, of tarnishings.

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We don’t see things as they are, we see them as we are.

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When we blindly adopt a religion, a political system, a literary dogma, we become automatons. We cease to grow.

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It is the function of art to renew our perception. What we are familiar with we cease to see. The writer shakes up the familiar scene, and, as if by magic, we see a new meaning in it.

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People living deeply have no fear of death.

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The only abnormality is the incapacity to love.

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The role of a writer is not to say what we all can say, but what we are unable to say.

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Truth is something which can’t be told in a few words. Those who simplify the universe only reduce the expansion of its meaning.

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When you make a world tolerable for yourself, you make a world tolerable for others.

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Life is truly known only to those who suffer, lose, endure adversity and stumble from defeat to defeat.

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There is not one big cosmic meaning for all, there is only the meaning we each give to our life, an individual meaning, an individual plot, like an individual novel, a book for each person.

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There are very few human beings who receive the truth, complete and staggering, by instant illumination. Most of them acquire it fragment by fragment, on a small scale, by successive developments, cellularly, like a laborious mosaic.

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I, with a deeper instinct, choose a man who compels my strength, who makes enormous demands on me, who does not doubt my courage or my toughness, who does not believe me naive or innocent, who has the courage to treat me like a woman.

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I stopped loving my father a long time ago. What remained was the slavery to a pattern.

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