I think it’s impossible to judge whether another person should come out. You just hope they will on their own time and their own terms.

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Each person should decide for themselves when and how to share information about their identity. It's not our place to tell someone else what they should do. The best we can do is be supportive and let them choose the right moment for themselves.

About Billie Jean King

Billie Jean King is an iconic American tennis player who won 39 Grand Slam titles and was a pioneer for gender equality and social justice. She famously won the ‘Battle of the Sexes’ match against Bobby Riggs in 1973 and founded the Women’s Tennis Association and the Women’s Sports Foundation.

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Champions keep playing until they get it right.

Billie Jean King

American tennis player (born 1943)

I didn’t really care if I had a coach that much, me personally, because I was brought up to think for myself.

Billie Jean King

American tennis player (born 1943)

In the seventies we had to make it acceptable for people to accept girls and women as athletes. We had to make it okay for them to be active. Those were much scarier times for females in sports.

Billie Jean King

American tennis player (born 1943)

I have a lot to say, and if I’m not No. 1, I can’t say it.

Billie Jean King

American tennis player (born 1943)

Sports are a microcosm of society.

Billie Jean King

American tennis player (born 1943)

I think younger players probably just think they are who they are-they don’t think about coming out. Unless you’re number one in the world, nobody cares, usually.

Billie Jean King

American tennis player (born 1943)

Victory is fleeting. Losing is forever.

Billie Jean King

American tennis player (born 1943)

I always wanted to help make tennis a team sport.

Billie Jean King

American tennis player (born 1943)

It is very hard to be a female leader. While it is assumed that any man, no matter how tough, has a soft side… and female leader is assumed to be one-dimensional.

Billie Jean King

American tennis player (born 1943)

Everyone has people in their lives that are gay, lesbian or transgender or bisexual. They may not want to admit it, but I guarantee they know somebody.

Billie Jean King

American tennis player (born 1943)

Men can have a huge turnover of sponsorship and still survive a lot better than the women. But the women’s ratings are better, at least at home in the United States than in the men’s tennis.

Billie Jean King

American tennis player (born 1943)

A girl didn’t get an athletic scholarship until the fall of 1972 for the very first time.

Billie Jean King

American tennis player (born 1943)

Any therapist will tell you that when you’re ready, you will come out. To be outed means you weren’t ready.

Billie Jean King

American tennis player (born 1943)

Tennis is a perfect combination of violent action taking place in an atmosphere of total tranquillity.

Billie Jean King

American tennis player (born 1943)

A champion is afraid of losing. Everyone else is afraid of winning.

Billie Jean King

American tennis player (born 1943)

In 1973, women got 59 cents on the dollar; now we are getting 74 cents on the dollar. In the area of finance and business, we are at 68 cents on the dollar.

Billie Jean King

American tennis player (born 1943)

It’s fun to meet people from throughout the world who you don’t have to explain yourself to.

Billie Jean King

American tennis player (born 1943)

There is no life for girls in team sports past Little League. I got into tennis when I realized this, and because I thought golf would be too slow for me, and I was too scared to swim.

Billie Jean King

American tennis player (born 1943)

In 1973, a woman could not get a credit card without her husband or father or a male signing off on it.

Billie Jean King

American tennis player (born 1943)

When I was outed, it was like, That’s done.

Billie Jean King

American tennis player (born 1943)

I think it’s impossible to judge whether another person should come out. You just hope they will on their own time and their own terms.

Billie Jean King

American tennis player (born 1943)

I like entrepreneurial people; I like people who take risks.

Billie Jean King

American tennis player (born 1943)

At 62 you want to keep moving; that’s important.

Billie Jean King

American tennis player (born 1943)

The main thing is to care. Care very hard, even if it is only a game you are playing.

Billie Jean King

American tennis player (born 1943)

I used to be told if I talked about my sexuality in any way that we wouldn’t have a tennis tour.

Billie Jean King

American tennis player (born 1943)

Martina and I went through a very bad five years. Everything’s very good between us now, but it was a long haul.

Billie Jean King

American tennis player (born 1943)

I would just never out anybody. I think everyone has to find it in their own way and their own time.

Billie Jean King

American tennis player (born 1943)

Martina’s gone with people who don’t want to be out, and it drives her crazy because she’d rather be open.

Billie Jean King

American tennis player (born 1943)

I love to promote our sport. I love grass-roots tennis. I love coaching. I love all parts of the sport. I love the business side.

Billie Jean King

American tennis player (born 1943)

When they take surveys of women in business, of the Fortune 500, the successful women, 80% of them, say they were in sports as a young woman.

Billie Jean King

American tennis player (born 1943)

They’re not put on earth to be martyrs; they have to want to come out. It depends on your culture, where you work, where you live. Each person’s circumstances are unique.

Billie Jean King

American tennis player (born 1943)

I think self-awareness is probably the most important thing towards being a champion.

Billie Jean King

American tennis player (born 1943)

I like putting money back into what made my life, and tennis has been great to me.

Billie Jean King

American tennis player (born 1943)

Men still get a lot more opportunity. It is still a big part of the old boy network. They have more companies they can get money from.

Billie Jean King

American tennis player (born 1943)

I was always in the tennis business-from 1968. I was in tournaments and also on World Team Tennis teams as well.

Billie Jean King

American tennis player (born 1943)

Women’s sports is still in its infancy. The beginning of women’s sports in the United States started in 1972, with the passage of Title 9 for girls to finally get athletic scholarships.

Billie Jean King

American tennis player (born 1943)

The old boy network is still very strong and very true. Just look at the stock exchange and how many men and women are there. It is still very much run by men.

Billie Jean King

American tennis player (born 1943)

I knew after my first lesson what I wanted to do with my life.

Billie Jean King

American tennis player (born 1943)

It’s just really important that we start celebrating our differences. Let’s start tolerating first, but then we need to celebrate our differences.

Billie Jean King

American tennis player (born 1943)

I will tell you King’s First Law of Recognition: You never get it when you want it, and then when it comes, you get too much.

Billie Jean King

American tennis player (born 1943)

I always liked co-ed events best so we have two men and two women on each team.

Billie Jean King

American tennis player (born 1943)

Ever since that day when I was 11 years old, and I wasn’t allowed in a photo because I wasn’t wearing a tennis skirt, I knew that I wanted to change the sport.

Billie Jean King

American tennis player (born 1943)

Be bold. If you’re going to make an error, make a doozy, and don’t be afraid to hit the ball.

Billie Jean King

American tennis player (born 1943)

When we reach the point where the women athletes are getting their pick of dates just as easily as the men athletes, then we’ve really and truly arrived. Parity at last!

Billie Jean King

American tennis player (born 1943)

Sports teaches you character, it teaches you to play by the rules, it teaches you to know what it feels like to win and lose-it teaches you about life.

Billie Jean King

American tennis player (born 1943)

I would love to be a player today. I had the right personality for it.

Billie Jean King

American tennis player (born 1943)

No one changes the world who isn’t obsessed.

Billie Jean King

American tennis player (born 1943)

That is where the power, opportunity, and choice come from-when you have money. Money equals opportunity. There is no question.

Billie Jean King

American tennis player (born 1943)

I wanted to use sports for social change.

Billie Jean King

American tennis player (born 1943)

If your partner wants to be private, you have to respect that.

Billie Jean King

American tennis player (born 1943)

Women get the attention when we get into the men’s arena, and that’s sad.

Billie Jean King

American tennis player (born 1943)