One must be fond of people and trust them if one is not to make a mess of life.

Meaning of the quote

To live a good life, you need to care about and trust other people. If you don't, you'll make a lot of mistakes and have a messy life.

About E. M. Forster

E.M. Forster was an acclaimed English author known for his novels like A Room with a View, Howards End, and A Passage to India. He was nominated for the Nobel Prize in Literature 22 times and was honored with various literary awards. Many of his works have been adapted into critically acclaimed films.

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Tolerance is a very dull virtue. It is boring. Unlike love, it has always had a bad press. It is negative. It merely means putting up with people, being able to stand things.

E. M. Forster

English novelist (1879-1970)

So, two cheers for Democracy: one because it admits variety and two because it permits criticism.

E. M. Forster

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The more highly public life is organized the lower does its morality sink.

E. M. Forster

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The historian must have some conception of how men who are not historians behave. Otherwise he will move in a world of the dead. He can only gain that conception through personal experience, and he can only use his personal experiences when he is a genius.

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One always tends to overpraise a long book, because one has got through it.

E. M. Forster

English novelist (1879-1970)

How can I know what I think till I see what I say?

E. M. Forster

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America is rather like life. You can usually find in it what you look for. It will probably be interesting, and it is sure to be large.

E. M. Forster

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Paganism is infectious, more infectious than diphtheria or piety.

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I’m a holy man minus the holiness.

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No man can be an agnostic who has a sense of humour.

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The sadness of the incomplete, the sadness that is often Life, but should never be Art.

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Most quarrels are inevitable at the time; incredible afterwards.

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I hate the idea of causes, and if I had to choose between betraying my country and betraying my friend, I hope I should have the guts to betray my country.

E. M. Forster

English novelist (1879-1970)

Very notable was his distinction between coarseness and vulgarity, coarseness, revealing something; vulgarity, concealing something.

E. M. Forster

English novelist (1879-1970)

A poem is true if it hangs together. Information points to something else. A poem points to nothing but itself.

E. M. Forster

English novelist (1879-1970)

What is wonderful about great literature is that it transforms the man who reads it towards the condition of the man who wrote.

E. M. Forster

English novelist (1879-1970)

Either life entails courage, or it ceases to be life.

E. M. Forster

English novelist (1879-1970)

The four characteristics of humanism are curiosity, a free mind, belief in good taste, and belief in the human race.

E. M. Forster

English novelist (1879-1970)

Love and understand the Italians, for the people are more marvellous than the land.

E. M. Forster

English novelist (1879-1970)

Life is easy to chronicle, but bewildering to practice.

E. M. Forster

English novelist (1879-1970)

One marvels why the middle classes still insist on so much discomfort for their children at such expense to themselves.

E. M. Forster

English novelist (1879-1970)

I am sure that if the mothers of various nations could meet, there would be no more wars.

E. M. Forster

English novelist (1879-1970)

I have no mystic faith in the people. I have in the individual.

E. M. Forster

English novelist (1879-1970)

If I had to choose between betraying my country and betraying my friend, I hope I should have the guts to betray my country.

E. M. Forster

English novelist (1879-1970)

To make us feel small in the right way is a function of art; men can only make us feel small in the wrong way.

E. M. Forster

English novelist (1879-1970)

If there is on earth a house with many mansions, it is the house of words.

E. M. Forster

English novelist (1879-1970)

Nonsense and beauty have close connections.

E. M. Forster

English novelist (1879-1970)

Beethoven’s Fifth Symphony is the most sublime noise that has ever penetrated into the ear of man.

E. M. Forster

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Beauty ought to look a little surprised: it is the emotion that best suits her face. The beauty who does not look surprised, who accepts her position as her due – she reminds us too much of a prima donna.

E. M. Forster

English novelist (1879-1970)

England has always been disinclined to accept human nature.

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The final test for a novel will be our affection for it, as it is the test of our friends, and of anything else which we cannot define.

E. M. Forster

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Be soft, even if you stand to get squashed.

E. M. Forster

English novelist (1879-1970)

Faith, to my mind, is a stiffening process, a sort of mental starch.

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But nothing in India is identifiable, the mere asking of a question causes it to disappear or to merge in something else.

E. M. Forster

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Railway termini are our gates to the glorious and the unknown. Through them we pass out into adventure and sunshine, to them, alas! we return.

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It is my fate and perhaps my temperament to sign agreements with fools.

E. M. Forster

English novelist (1879-1970)

History develops, art stands still.

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Death destroys a man, but the idea of death saves him.

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I distrust Great Men. They produce a desert of uniformity around them and often a pool of blood too, and I always feel a little man’s pleasure when they come a cropper.

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There lies at the back of every creed something terrible and hard for which the worshipper may one day be required to suffer.

E. M. Forster

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Reverence is fatal to literature.

E. M. Forster

English novelist (1879-1970)

We are not concerned with the very poor. They are unthinkable, and only to be approached by the statistician or the poet.

E. M. Forster

English novelist (1879-1970)

I never could get on with representative individuals but people who existed on their own account and with whom it might therefore be possible to be friends.

E. M. Forster

English novelist (1879-1970)

Think before you speak is criticism’s motto; speak before you think, creation’s.

E. M. Forster

English novelist (1879-1970)

Surely the only sound foundation for a civilization is a sound state of mind.

E. M. Forster

English novelist (1879-1970)

I have only got down on to paper, really, three types of people: the person I think I am, the people who irritate me, and the people I’d like to be.

E. M. Forster

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The only books that influence us are those for which we are ready, and which have gone a little farther down our particular path than we have yet got ourselves.

E. M. Forster

English novelist (1879-1970)

We must be willing to let go of the life we have planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us.

E. M. Forster

English novelist (1879-1970)

We cast a shadow on something wherever we stand.

E. M. Forster

English novelist (1879-1970)

Two cheers for Democracy; one because it admits variety, and two because it permits criticism.

E. M. Forster

English novelist (1879-1970)

The English countryside, its growth and its destruction, is a genuine and tragic theme.

E. M. Forster

English novelist (1879-1970)

We are willing enough to praise freedom when she is safely tucked away in the past and cannot be a nuisance. In the present, amidst dangers whose outcome we cannot foresee, we get nervous about her, and admit censorship.

E. M. Forster

English novelist (1879-1970)

Unless we remember we cannot understand.

E. M. Forster

English novelist (1879-1970)

No one is India.

E. M. Forster

English novelist (1879-1970)

Ideas are fatal to caste.

E. M. Forster

English novelist (1879-1970)

There is much good luck in the world, but it is luck. We are none of us safe. We are children, playing or quarrelling on the line.

E. M. Forster

English novelist (1879-1970)

Love is always being given where it is not required.

E. M. Forster

English novelist (1879-1970)

Creative writers are always greater than the causes that they represent.

E. M. Forster

English novelist (1879-1970)

One is certain of nothing but the truth of one’s own emotions.

E. M. Forster

English novelist (1879-1970)

The woman who can’t influence her husband to vote the way she wants ought to be ashamed of herself.

E. M. Forster

English novelist (1879-1970)

I am certainly an ought and not a must.

E. M. Forster

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The king died and then the queen died is a story. The king died, and then queen died of grief is a plot.

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At night, when the curtains are drawn and the fire flickers, my books attain a collective dignity.

E. M. Forster

English novelist (1879-1970)

There is something majestic in the bad taste of Italy.

E. M. Forster

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I am so used to seeing the sort of play which deals with one man and two women. They do not leave me with the feeling I have made a full theatrical meal they do not give me the experience of the multiplicity of life.

E. M. Forster

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Only a struggle twists sentimentality and lust together into love.

E. M. Forster

English novelist (1879-1970)

The work of art assumes the existence of the perfect spectator, and is indifferent to the fact that no such person exists.

E. M. Forster

English novelist (1879-1970)

The main facts in human life are five: birth, food, sleep, love and death.

E. M. Forster

English novelist (1879-1970)

Logic! Good gracious! What rubbish!

E. M. Forster

English novelist (1879-1970)

It is the vice of a vulgar mind to be thrilled by bigness.

E. M. Forster

English novelist (1879-1970)

For our vanity is such that we hold our own characters immutable, and we are slow to acknowledge that they have changed, even for the better.

E. M. Forster

English novelist (1879-1970)

At the side of the everlasting why, is a yes, and a yes, and a yes.

E. M. Forster

English novelist (1879-1970)

One must be fond of people and trust them if one is not to make a mess of life.

E. M. Forster

English novelist (1879-1970)

The fact is we can only love what we know personally. And we cannot know much. In public affairs, in the rebuilding of civilization, something less dramatic and emotional is needed, namely tolerance.

E. M. Forster

English novelist (1879-1970)

The sort of poetry I seek resides in objects man can’t touch.

E. M. Forster

English novelist (1879-1970)

Spoon feeding in the long run teaches us nothing but the shape of the spoon.

E. M. Forster

English novelist (1879-1970)

Charm, in most men and nearly all women, is a decoration.

E. M. Forster

English novelist (1879-1970)

Only people who have been allowed to practise freedom can have the grown-up look in their eyes.

E. M. Forster

English novelist (1879-1970)

Works of art, in my opinion, are the only objects in the material universe to possess internal order, and that is why, though I don’t believe that only art matters, I do believe in Art for Art’s sake.

E. M. Forster

English novelist (1879-1970)

We are all like Scheherazade’s husband, in that we want to know what happens next.

E. M. Forster

English novelist (1879-1970)

Only a writer who has the sense of evil can make goodness readable.

E. M. Forster

English novelist (1879-1970)

People have their own deaths as well as their own lives, and even if there is nothing beyond death, we shall differ in our nothingness.

E. M. Forster

English novelist (1879-1970)

What is the good of your stars and trees, your sunrise and the wind, if they do not enter into our daily lives?

E. M. Forster

English novelist (1879-1970)

The people I respect most behave as if they were immortal and as if society was eternal.

E. M. Forster

English novelist (1879-1970)

Oxford is Oxford: not a mere receptacle for youth, like Cambridge. Perhaps it wants its inmates to love it rather than to love one another.

E. M. Forster

English novelist (1879-1970)

One of the evils of money is that it tempts us to look at it rather than at the things that it buys.

E. M. Forster

English novelist (1879-1970)

Liking one person is an extra reason for liking another.

E. M. Forster

English novelist (1879-1970)

Letters have to pass two tests before they can be classed as good: they must express the personality both of the writer and of the recipient.

E. M. Forster

English novelist (1879-1970)

Those who prepared for all the emergencies of life beforehand may equip themselves at the expense of joy.

E. M. Forster

English novelist (1879-1970)