Do not seek to bring things to pass in accordance with your wishes, but wish for them as they are, and you will find them.
Meaning of the quote
The quote by the Greek philosopher Epictetus suggests that we should not try to force things to happen the way we want them to. Instead, we should accept things as they are and wish for them as they are. If we do this, we will find that things work out better for us in the end.
About Epictetus
Epictetus was a Greek Stoic philosopher who lived in the 1st-2nd century AD. He was born into slavery but became a renowned teacher, with his teachings written down by his student Arrian. Epictetus believed that philosophy should be a way of life, and that individuals should accept external events calmly while taking responsibility for their own actions.
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Make the best use of what is in your power, and take the rest as it happens.
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We have two ears and one mouth so that we can listen twice as much as we speak.
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