Happiness in marriage is entirely a matter of chance.

Meaning of the quote

According to British writer Jane Austen, whether a marriage is happy or not is mostly just a matter of luck. Some people may get lucky and have a great marriage, while others may not be as fortunate. Austen suggests that there's no guaranteed formula for a happy marriage - it often comes down to chance and circumstances beyond your control.

About Jane Austen

Jane Austen was an English novelist who lived in the late 18th and early 19th centuries. She is best known for her six novels, which offer insightful social commentary and critiques of the British landed gentry. Her works have gained widespread acclaim over the years and have inspired numerous film adaptations.

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How quick come the reasons for approving what we like!

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Respect for right conduct is felt by every body.

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A lady’s imagination is very rapid; it jumps from admiration to love, from love to matrimony in a moment.

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If I loved you less, I might be able to talk about it more.

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Friendship is certainly the finest balm for the pangs of disappointed love.

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There are people, who the more you do for them, the less they will do for themselves.

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I am afraid that the pleasantness of an employment does not always evince its propriety.

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There is no charm equal to tenderness of heart.

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Oh! do not attack me with your watch. A watch is always too fast or too slow. I cannot be dictated to by a watch.

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We have all a better guide in ourselves, if we would attend to it, than any other person can be.

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My idea of good company is the company of clever, well-informed people who have a great deal of conversation; that is what I call good company.

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Single women have a dreadful propensity for being poor. Which is one very strong argument in favor of matrimony.

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Where youth and diffidence are united, it requires uncommon steadiness of reason to resist the attraction of being called the most charming girl in the world.

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A woman, especially, if she have the misfortune of knowing anything, should conceal it as well as she can.

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Vanity working on a weak head, produces every sort of mischief.

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We do not look in our great cities for our best morality.

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One cannot be always laughing at a man without now and then stumbling on something witty.

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It is a truth universally acknowledged, that a single man in possession of a good fortune, must be in want of a wife.

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Nothing is more deceitful than the appearance of humility. It is often only carelessness of opinion, and sometimes an indirect boast.

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The person, be it gentleman or lady, who has not pleasure in a good novel, must be intolerably stupid.

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Dress is at all times a frivolous distinction, and excessive solicitude about it often destroys its own aim.

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It will, I believe, be everywhere found, that as the clergy are, or are not what they ought to be, so are the rest of the nation.

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An artist cannot do anything slovenly.

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A large income is the best recipe for happiness I ever heard of.

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Vanity and pride are different things, though the words are often used synonymously. A person may be proud without being vain. Pride relates more to our opinion of ourselves; vanity, to what we would have others think of us.

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There are certainly not so many men of large fortune in the world, as there are pretty women to deserve them.

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An engaged woman is always more agreeable than a disengaged. She is satisfied with herself. Her cares are over, and she feels that she may exert all her powers of pleasing without suspicion. All is safe with a lady engaged; no harm can be done.

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My sore throats are always worse than anyone’s.

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Nobody minds having what is too good for them.

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One man’s ways may be as good as another’s, but we all like our own best.

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To look almost pretty is an acquisition of higher delight to a girl who has been looking plain for the first fifteen years of her life than a beauty from her cradle can ever receive.

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Give a girl an education and introduce her properly into the world, and ten to one but she has the means of settling well, without further expense to anybody.

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Surprises are foolish things. The pleasure is not enhanced, and the inconvenience is often considerable.

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Those who do not complain are never pitied.

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One man’s style must not be the rule of another’s.

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From politics, it was an easy step to silence.

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It sometimes happens that a woman is handsomer at twenty-nine than she was ten years before.

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Seldom, very seldom, does complete truth belong to any human disclosure; seldom can it happen that something is not a little disguised, or a little mistaken.

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No man is offended by another man’s admiration of the woman he loves; it is the woman only who can make it a torment.

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There is something so amiable in the prejudices of a young mind, that one is sorry to see them give way to the reception of more general opinions.

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To flatter and follow others, without being flattered and followed in turn, is but a state of half enjoyment.

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It is happy for you that you possess the talent of flattering with delicacy. May I ask whether these pleasing attentions proceed from the impulse of the moment, or are they the result of previous study?

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To be fond of dancing was a certain step towards falling in love.

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I cannot speak well enough to be unintelligible.

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Business, you know, may bring you money, but friendship hardly ever does.

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If things are going untowardly one month, they are sure to mend the next.

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Next to being married, a girl likes to be crossed in love a little now and then.

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I have been a selfish being all my life, in practice, though not in principle.

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It is always incomprehensible to a man that a woman should ever refuse an offer of marriage.

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Let other pens dwell on guilt and misery.

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What wild imaginations one forms where dear self is concerned! How sure to be mistaken!

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Every man is surrounded by a neighborhood of voluntary spies.

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Good-humoured, unaffected girls, will not do for a man who has been used to sensible women. They are two distinct orders of being.

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One does not love a place the less for having suffered in it, unless it has been all suffering, nothing but suffering.

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Human nature is so well disposed towards those who are in interesting situations, that a young person, who either marries or dies, is sure of being kindly spoken of.

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There is nothing like staying at home for real comfort.

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A mind lively and at ease, can do with seeing nothing, and can see nothing that does not answer.

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Men have had every advantage of us in telling their own story. Education has been theirs in so much higher a degree; the pen has been in their hands. I will not allow books to prove anything.

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What is right to be done cannot be done too soon.

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Life seems but a quick succession of busy nothings.

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One half of the world cannot understand the pleasures of the other.

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Selfishness must always be forgiven you know, because there is no hope of a cure.

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A person who can write a long letter with ease, cannot write ill.

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Woman is fine for her own satisfaction alone. No man will admire her the more, no woman will like her the better for it. Neatness and fashion are enough for the former, and a something of shabbiness or impropriety will be most endearing to the latter.

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