I’ve never had a huge circle of friends. I can’t spread myself that thin and go 100 million miles an hour all the time. I choose to give truly of myself, entirely of myself, to the people I choose to do that with, and I can’t do that with everyone.

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Jeremy Northam, the English actor, says he doesn't have a lot of friends because he can't be equally close to everyone. He chooses to be fully present and genuine with the people he cares about, and he can't do that with everyone. He'd rather have a few deep connections than many shallow ones.

About Jeremy Northam

Jeremy Northam is an acclaimed English actor with credits in film, television, and theater. He has starred in notable productions like Emma, The Tudors, and The Crown, showcasing his versatility and talent. His career spans over three decades and he continues to captivate audiences with his compelling performances.

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