Sexuality is a private matter; some believe that broadcasting it destroys the very things that make it sacred.

About Lance Loud

Alanson Russell “Lance” Loudwas an American television personality, magazine columnist, and new wave rock-n-roll performer. Loud is best known for his 1973 appearance in An American Family, a pioneer reality television series that featured his coming out, leading to his status as an icon in the gay community.

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When you’ve grown sick of reading and bug-eyed from watching TV, when your friends are all visited out, no words can adequately praise the link to the outside world provided by your parents and family.

Lance Loud

Columnist, musician (1951-2001)

Coming out involves varying degrees of difficulty that are affected by class, race, religion, and geography.

Lance Loud

Columnist, musician (1951-2001)

Coming out is a means of redefining oneself, of claiming membership in a lifestyle and a social order with distinct values. Chief among these values is honesty.

Lance Loud

Columnist, musician (1951-2001)

One result of An American Family was that I became a gay role model.

Lance Loud

Columnist, musician (1951-2001)

I am now faced with mortality. Definitely not the most generous move.

Lance Loud

Columnist, musician (1951-2001)

Proclaiming a sexual preference is something that straight men never really have to bother with.

Lance Loud

Columnist, musician (1951-2001)

Perhaps there is no agony worse than the tedium I experienced waiting for Something to Happen.

Lance Loud

Columnist, musician (1951-2001)

If there is a gay uniform, the differences are in how each man coordinates the details: the brand and cut of the jeans, the design of belts and boots, the haircut, the number and size of earrings.

Lance Loud

Columnist, musician (1951-2001)

My gayness became quietly accepted and, shock of all shocks, life went on.

Lance Loud

Columnist, musician (1951-2001)

David Bowie and Boy George created a safely contained theatrical expression of gay style.

Lance Loud

Columnist, musician (1951-2001)

I wore a woman’s antique fur jacket to my high school junior prom.

Lance Loud

Columnist, musician (1951-2001)

I had been found in a mud puddle at 4:30 in the morning.

Lance Loud

Columnist, musician (1951-2001)

As anyone who is gay will confirm, being that way is not something you become, it is a set of emotional and physical responses that just are.

Lance Loud

Columnist, musician (1951-2001)

It was a pleasure to be a gay eyesore.

Lance Loud

Columnist, musician (1951-2001)

My reasons for declaring a sexual preference had to do less with the pursuit of personal freedom than with the lust for pure shock value.

Lance Loud

Columnist, musician (1951-2001)

Gay culture is surviving and thriving. Some activists believe the recent rise in homophobic violence might be a gauge of the success of positive gay images.

Lance Loud

Columnist, musician (1951-2001)

As I was coming out of the closet, our car was hurtling over an embankment.

Lance Loud

Columnist, musician (1951-2001)

I believed I was invincible.

Lance Loud

Columnist, musician (1951-2001)

Sexuality is a private matter; some believe that broadcasting it destroys the very things that make it sacred.

Lance Loud

Columnist, musician (1951-2001)