People break down after a couple of hours. All the defenses go down, and there’s a kind of communication that if I spent 20 years in a living room with one of these people, I would never, never know as much about them as I do in that one day.

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When people feel comfortable and let their guard down, they can open up and share more about themselves in a short time than if you spent years with them. This is because people often put up walls and act differently when they're trying to impress others or keep their personal lives private. But when those defenses come down, you can learn a lot about who they truly are in just one day of close interaction.

About Lee Grant

Lee Grant is an acclaimed American actress, documentarian, and director. She has had an impressive career, earning an Oscar nomination for her film debut, winning an Oscar for her role in Shampoo, and being recognized with two Emmy Awards. Lee Grant was also one of many entertainment industry professionals blacklisted during the 1950s, but she was able to rebuild her acting career in the mid-1960s and later found success as a director as well.

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