I have spent much of my adult life flinching with pain as I tried to pull out the threads that bound the shadows of my past to me.

Meaning of the quote

This quote is about a person who has struggled to let go of the painful memories and experiences from their past. They describe it as trying to "pull out the threads" that connect them to the "shadows of [their] past," which causes them a great deal of discomfort and distress. The person is saying that they have spent a significant part of their adult life dealing with these difficult emotions and trying to move on from the past.

About Lorna Luft

Lorna Luft is an American actress and singer who is the daughter of legendary entertainer Judy Garland and Sidney Luft. She is also the sister of Joey Luft and the half-sister of Liza Minnelli, making her part of one of Hollywood’s most famous showbusiness families.

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Sinatra was just one of Mom’s friends.

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I had grown up accustomed to living a life of high drama.

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My mother’s life had been destroyed by the Garland legend.

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My mother should have been Jewish. She could have taught a class on how to induce guilt.

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The only difference between the Bel Air of the ’90s and the Bel Air of my childhood is that now the nannies are Latina instead of British, and the cars European instead of American.

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My sister Liza and I have never felt that we were in competition.

Lorna Luft

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I used drugs as a social activity; a way to have fun with friends.

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When your parent is a public idol, you never really have a chance to lay that parent to rest.

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The most memorable night of The Judy Garland Show for me was the night my mother pulled me out of the audience and sang to me onstage.

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Living in continual chaos is exhausting, frightening. The catch is that it’s also very addictive.

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The high point of my entire junior high school career was going backstage to meet George Harrison. I was simply awestruck.

Lorna Luft

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One of the oddities about being Judy Garland’s daughter was that everyone treated my mother with such awe that they would never have asked me the normal questions kids get about their moms.

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American television, stage and film actress and singer

Fabio kept asking me out, but I knew we’d never get his ego through the door.

Lorna Luft

American television, stage and film actress and singer

Instead of joyfully looking forward to my birth, my mother began systematically preparing for her own death. She was fatalistic.

Lorna Luft

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When I got a call from Los Angeles to do the Tonight Show, I considered it more of an inconvenience than an opportunity.

Lorna Luft

American television, stage and film actress and singer

A gay man has no business leading on a heterosexual woman.

Lorna Luft

American television, stage and film actress and singer

Dinah had all the class.

Lorna Luft

American television, stage and film actress and singer

Life will force you to make changes you never wanted to make.

Lorna Luft

American television, stage and film actress and singer

Vincente understood all too well what was happening to Liza; he had gone through it 40 years earlier with my mother.

Lorna Luft

American television, stage and film actress and singer

Dodi got a lot of criticism when he began dating Princess Diana. No one seemed to think he was good enough for her.

Lorna Luft

American television, stage and film actress and singer

My mother’s suicide attempts were a way to release anxiety and get attention. Some of the attempts were drug reactions she didn’t even remember later on.

Lorna Luft

American television, stage and film actress and singer

I have a healthy body, free of the chemicals that once controlled it.

Lorna Luft

American television, stage and film actress and singer

When I look back at The Judy Garland Show, I have such mixed feelings. It broke my mother’s heart when they canceled it.

Lorna Luft

American television, stage and film actress and singer

Between them, my parents had 10 marriages.

Lorna Luft

American television, stage and film actress and singer

There are some family traditions I don’t want my children to carry on.

Lorna Luft

American television, stage and film actress and singer

Children have a way of forcing you back into the present moment.

Lorna Luft

American television, stage and film actress and singer

The one thing I never questioned about my mother was whether she loved me.

Lorna Luft

American television, stage and film actress and singer

I choose not to think of my life as surviving, but coping.

Lorna Luft

American television, stage and film actress and singer

A star needs all the rest she can get.

Lorna Luft

American television, stage and film actress and singer

The sicker mother got, the stranger the people surrounding her became. I called them The Garland Freaks.

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One trait of addictive families is that we never recognize our own addictions.

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Liza is in the tabloids almost as much as our mother was. She has struggled with her own ghosts and shadows.

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I spent an entire evening seated between Fred Astaire and Gene Kelly, being charmed from either side. It was pure Hollywood magic.

Lorna Luft

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If you really want to kill yourself, you get a gun and blow your head off.

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My mother was a phoenix who always expected to rise from the ashes of her latest disaster. She loved being Judy Garland.

Lorna Luft

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To me, being grown-up meant smoking cigarettes, drinking cocktails, and dressing up in high heels and glamourous outfits.

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A career is all very well, but no one lives by work alone.

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People are always asking me what it’s like to be Judy Garland’s daughter. It’s hard to be a legend’s child.

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American television, stage and film actress and singer

There is a time of reckoning in all our lives.

Lorna Luft

American television, stage and film actress and singer

When you’re Judy Garland and you want something, you just pick up the phone and call somebody. Anybody.

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It was at one of the parties at our house that The Rat Pack got started.

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Even at al my mother’s concerts, I had never seen people go crazy the way they did with the Beatles.

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The world fell apart. Sirhan Sirhan shot Bobby Kennedy. Why were people shooting all the Kennedys? Had the country gone mad?

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American television, stage and film actress and singer

Studio 54 made Halloween in Hollywood look like a PTA meeting.

Lorna Luft

American television, stage and film actress and singer

Barry Manilow has gone from being the love of my life to being a friend for life.

Lorna Luft

American television, stage and film actress and singer

My mother was electric onstage, and I vividly recall the extraordinary power she had over her audiences.

Lorna Luft

American television, stage and film actress and singer

I was born in a blender.

Lorna Luft

American television, stage and film actress and singer

People come up to me as I leave the stage after a performance and tell me tey saw my mother onstage with me every time I sing. I keep a sense of humor about it.

Lorna Luft

American television, stage and film actress and singer

Although I loved Liza as a little girl, it would be true to say I really didn’t know her.

Lorna Luft

American television, stage and film actress and singer

My mother wasn’t rational those last years; if she had been, she would have been horrified by her own behavior.

Lorna Luft

American television, stage and film actress and singer

When my mother signed at MGM, that was the only kind of contract you could sign. There was no such thing as an independent agent.

Lorna Luft

American television, stage and film actress and singer

I have spent much of my adult life flinching with pain as I tried to pull out the threads that bound the shadows of my past to me.

Lorna Luft

American television, stage and film actress and singer

The eyebrow pencil and false eyelashes were essential; my mother didn’t feel dressed without them.

Lorna Luft

American television, stage and film actress and singer