I majored in Chinese. I was never really good at Chinese but I really, really benefited from having been exposed to Asian philosophy early in my life.

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Martha Nibley Beckis an American author, life coach, speaker, and sociologist.
She holds bachelor’s, master’s, and PhD degrees from Harvard University.

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Good-looking individuals are treated better than homely ones in virtually every social situation, from dating to trial by jury.

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Standards of beauty are arbitrary. Body shame exists only to the extent that our physiques don’t match our own beliefs about how we should look.

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American sociologist

Given the eclectic and constantly shifting nature of my metaphysical inclinations, I will probably never feel certain exactly what an angel is.

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People are so afraid of authority figures and doctors are authority figures.

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American sociologist

I really do think that any deep crisis is an opportunity to make your life extraordinary in some way.

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American sociologist

If you’re religious, it gives you a perspective.

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American sociologist

If you’re living completely on your own, break out of solitary confinement. Seek to understand others, and help them understand you.

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American sociologist

Almost all my middle-aged and elderly acquaintances, including me, feel about 25, unless we haven’t had our coffee, in which case we feel 107.

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American sociologist

Children who assume adult responsibilities feel old when they’re young.

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American sociologist

If you want to end your isolation, you must be honest about what you want at a core level and decide to go after it.

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American sociologist

I have come to believe that there are infinite passageways out of the shadows, infinite vehicles to transport us into the light.

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American sociologist

Whoever said love is blind is dead wrong. Love is the only thing that lets us see each other with the remotest accuracy.

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American sociologist

Most of my clients don’t realize that the way they look and the way they think about their looks are two separate issues.

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American sociologist

Every day brings new choices.

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American sociologist

At times in my life, I have been utterly lonely. At other times, I’ve had disgusting infectious diseases. Try admitting these things in our culture.

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American sociologist

Do whatever it takes to convey your essential self.

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American sociologist

Absolutely lonely people have few personal interactions of any kind.

Martha Beck

American sociologist

I majored in Chinese. I was never really good at Chinese but I really, really benefited from having been exposed to Asian philosophy early in my life.

Martha Beck

American sociologist

The position that I take partly as a result of living in Asia is where you stop living according to your expectations and you become available to experience things as they are.

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American sociologist

No one else can take risks for us, or face our losses on our behalf, or give us self-esteem. No one can spare us from life’s slings and arrows, and when death comes, we meet it alone.

Martha Beck

American sociologist

Only since the Industrial Revolution have most people worked in places away from their homes or been left to raise small children without the help of multiple adults, making for an unsupported life.

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American sociologist

My own nature hovers between neurotic and paranoid. I’ve developed the habit of mentally listing things that make me optimistic about the future. I do it every day.

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American sociologist

The average adult laughs 15 times a day; the average child, more than 400 times.

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American sociologist

Allowing children to show their guilt, show their grief, show their anger, takes the sting out of the situation.

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American sociologist

As much horror as we have always created, we are a species that keeps moving forward, seeing new sights in new ways, and enjoying the journey.

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American sociologist

Adults under threat feel like children.

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American sociologist

Polite strangers often tell soothing lies about our physical appearance that prevent many of us from facing, discussing and solving our real problems.

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American sociologist

Although beauty may be in the eye of the beholder, the feeling of being beautiful exists solely in the mind of the beheld.

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American sociologist

We virtually never feel our age, but thinking that we should can lead to disaster.

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American sociologist

Use anything you can think of to understand and be understood, and you’ll discover the creativity that connects you with others.

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American sociologist

Caring for your inner child has a powerful and surprisingly quick result: Do it and the child heals.

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American sociologist

Seek art from every time and place, in any form, to connect with those who really move you.

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American sociologist

In one century, we’ve added 28 years to our average life span – a change so rapid that our brains couldn’t possibly have evolved to accommodate it.

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American sociologist

I always felt that it was my job to try to help other people get it and deal with it.

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American sociologist

Loneliness is proof that your innate search for connection is intact.

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American sociologist

When you meet people, show real appreciation, then genuine curiosity.

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American sociologist

What laughter is to childhood, sex is to adolescence.

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American sociologist

No matter how difficult and painful it may be, nothing sounds as good to the soul as the truth.

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American sociologist

Hopeful thinking can get you out of your fear zone and into your appreciation zone.

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American sociologist

Basic human contact – the meeting of eyes, the exchanging of words – is to the psyche what oxygen is to the brain. If you’re feeling abandoned by the world, interact with anyone you can.

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American sociologist

I don’t believe that there are no spiritual beings around us. I don’t know what to call them, I don’t know how they work. But I know they’re there.

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