If a Woman can neither Love nor Honour, she does ill in promising to Obey.

About Mary Astell

Mary Astellwas an English protofeminist writer, philosopher, and rhetorician who advocated for equal educational opportunities for women. Astell is primarily remembered as one of England’s inaugural advocates for women’s rights and some commentators consider her to have been “the first English feminist.”
Astell’s works, particularly A Serious Proposal to the Ladies and Some Reflections Upon Marriage, argue for the fundamental intellectual equality between men and women.

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We may not commit a lesser Sin under pretence to avoid a greater, but we may, nay we ought to endure the greatest Pain and Grief rather than commit the least Sin.

Mary Astell

English feminist writer (1666-1731)

God is His own Design and End, and that there is no other Worthy of Him.

Mary Astell

English feminist writer (1666-1731)

Marry for Love, an Heroick Action, which makes a mighty noise in the World, partly because of its rarity, and partly in regard of its extravagancy.

Mary Astell

English feminist writer (1666-1731)

If none were to Marry, but Men of strict Vertue and Honour, I doubt the World would be but thinly peopled.

Mary Astell

English feminist writer (1666-1731)

None of God’s Creatures absolutely consider’d are in their own Nature Contemptible; the meanest Fly, the poorest Insect has its Use and Vertue.

Mary Astell

English feminist writer (1666-1731)

Your glass will not do you half so much service as a serious reflection on your own minds.

Mary Astell

English feminist writer (1666-1731)

He who will be just, must be forc’d to acknowledge, that neither Sex are always in the right.

Mary Astell

English feminist writer (1666-1731)

Certain I am, that Christian Religion does no where allow Rebellion.

Mary Astell

English feminist writer (1666-1731)

Ignorance and a narrow education lay the foundation of vice, and imitation and custom rear it up.

Mary Astell

English feminist writer (1666-1731)

If God had not intended that Women shou’d use their Reason, He wou’d not have given them any, ‘for He does nothing in vain.’

Mary Astell

English feminist writer (1666-1731)

How can a Man respect his Wife when he has a contemptible Opinion of her and her Sex?

Mary Astell

English feminist writer (1666-1731)

The Soul debases her self, when she sets her affections on any thing but her creator.

Mary Astell

English feminist writer (1666-1731)

Whilst our Hearts are violently set upon any thing, there is no convincing us that we shall ever be of another Mind.

Mary Astell

English feminist writer (1666-1731)

For certainly there cannot be a higher pleasure than to think that we love and are beloved by the most amiable and best Being.

Mary Astell

English feminist writer (1666-1731)

‘Tis very great pity that they who are so apt to over-rate themselves in smaller matters, shou’d, where it most concerns them to know, and stand upon their Value, be so insensible of their own worth.

Mary Astell

English feminist writer (1666-1731)

The Relation we bear to the Wisdom of the Father, the Son of His Love, gives us indeed a dignity which otherwise we have no pretence to. It makes us something, something considerable even in God’s Eyes.

Mary Astell

English feminist writer (1666-1731)

We must Think what we Say, and Mean what we Profess.

Mary Astell

English feminist writer (1666-1731)

How can you be content to be in the world like tulips in a garden, to make a fine show, and be good for nothing.

Mary Astell

English feminist writer (1666-1731)

The scum of the People are most Tyrannical when they get the Power, and treat their Betters with the greatest Insolence.

Mary Astell

English feminist writer (1666-1731)

Women need not take up with mean things, since (if they are not wanting to themselves) they are capable of the best.

Mary Astell

English feminist writer (1666-1731)

Nor can the Apostle mean that Eve only sinned; or that she only was Deceived, for if Adam sinned willfully and knowingly, he became the greater Transgressor.

Mary Astell

English feminist writer (1666-1731)

None of us whether Men or Women but have so good an Opinion of our own Conduct as to believe we are fit, if not to direct others, at least to govern our selves.

Mary Astell

English feminist writer (1666-1731)

That which has not a real excellency and value in it self, entertains no longer than the giddy Humour which recommended it to us holds.

Mary Astell

English feminist writer (1666-1731)

If a Woman can neither Love nor Honour, she does ill in promising to Obey.

Mary Astell

English feminist writer (1666-1731)

Women are from their very infancy debarred those Advantages with the want of which they are afterwards reproached.

Mary Astell

English feminist writer (1666-1731)

We ought as much as we can to endeavour the Perfecting of our Beings, and that we be as happy as possibly we may.

Mary Astell

English feminist writer (1666-1731)

Every one knows, that the mind will not be kept from contemplating what it loves in the midst of crowds and business. Hence come those frequent absences, so observable in conversation; for whilst the body is confined to present company, the mind is flown to that which it delights in.

Mary Astell

English feminist writer (1666-1731)

The design of Rhetoric is to remove those Prejudices that lie in the way of Truth, to Reduce the Passions to the Government of Reasons; to place our Subject in a Right Light, and excite our Hearers to a due consideration of it.

Mary Astell

English feminist writer (1666-1731)

Truth is strong, and sometime or other will prevail.

Mary Astell

English feminist writer (1666-1731)

The Span of Life is too short to be trifled away in unconcerning and unprofitable Matters.

Mary Astell

English feminist writer (1666-1731)

To all the rest of his Absurdities, (for vice is always unreasonable,) he adds one more, who expects that Vertue from another which he won’t practise himself.

Mary Astell

English feminist writer (1666-1731)

To plead for the Oppress’d and to defend the Weak seem’d to me a generous undertaking; for tho’ it may be secure, ’tis not always Honourable to run over to the strongest party.

Mary Astell

English feminist writer (1666-1731)

If all men are born free, how is it that all women are born slaves?

Mary Astell

English feminist writer (1666-1731)

Upon the principles of reason, the good of many is preferable to the good of a few or of one; a lasting good is to be preferred before a temporary, the public before the private.

Mary Astell

English feminist writer (1666-1731)

Why is Slavery so much condemn’d and strove against in one Case, and so highly applauded and held so necessary and so sacred in another?

Mary Astell

English feminist writer (1666-1731)

We all agree that its fit to be as Happy as we can, and we need no Instructor to teach us this Knowledge, ’tis born with us, and is inseparable from our Being, but we very much need to be Inform’d what is the true Way to Happiness.

Mary Astell

English feminist writer (1666-1731)

Unhappy is that Grandeur which makes us too great to be good; and that Wit which sets us at a distance from true Wisdom.

Mary Astell

English feminist writer (1666-1731)

Although it has been said by men of more wit than wisdom, and perhaps more malice than either, that women are naturally incapable of acting prudently, or that they are necessarily determined to folly, I must by no means grant it.

Mary Astell

English feminist writer (1666-1731)

But, alas! what poor Woman is ever taught that she should have a higher Design than to get her a Husband?

Mary Astell

English feminist writer (1666-1731)

Hitherto I have courted Truth with a kind of Romantick Passion, in spite of all Difficulties and Discouragements: for knowledge is thought so unnecessary an Accomplishment for a Woman, that few will give themselves the Trouble to assist us in the Attainment of it.

Mary Astell

English feminist writer (1666-1731)

That Man indeed can never be good at heart, who is full of himself and his own Endowments.

Mary Astell

English feminist writer (1666-1731)

Women are not so well united as to form an Insurrection. They are for the most part wise enough to love their Chains, and to discern how becomingly they fit.

Mary Astell

English feminist writer (1666-1731)

It is not the Head but the Heart that is the Seat of Atheism.

Mary Astell

English feminist writer (1666-1731)

Every Body has so good an Opinion of their own Understanding as to think their own way the best.

Mary Astell

English feminist writer (1666-1731)

The Steps to Folly as well as Sin are gradual, and almost imperceptible, and when we are once on the Decline, we go down without taking notice on’t.

Mary Astell

English feminist writer (1666-1731)