There’s a way about it: tearing people down, but not tearing them apart.

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The quote means that it's possible to criticize or point out flaws in someone, but you should do it in a way that doesn't completely destroy or ruin them. It's about finding a balance between being honest and being caring. You can tell someone they need to improve in certain areas, but you should do it in a way that doesn't make them feel completely broken or hopeless.

About Michael Shanks

Michael Shanks is a Canadian actor best known for his roles as Daniel Jackson in the sci-fi series Stargate SG-1 and Dr. Charles Harris in the medical drama Saving Hope. He has also appeared in various low-budget genre films produced in Canada.

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