It’s not a good idea to put your wife into a novel; not your latest wife anyway.

Meaning of the quote

The quote suggests that writers should not use their real-life spouses as characters in their novels, especially if they have recently gotten married. This could be seen as disrespectful or invasive of the spouse's privacy. It's generally better for authors to create fictional characters rather than basing them directly on their personal relationships.

About Norman Mailer

Norman Mailer was an acclaimed American writer and filmmaker who had a prolific career spanning over six decades. He authored several best-selling novels, including the groundbreaking “The Naked and the Dead,” and won two Pulitzer Prizes. Mailer was also a prominent cultural commentator known for his innovative and often controversial literary style.

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