If you do not express your own original ideas, if you do not listen to your own being, you will have betrayed yourself.

About Rollo May

Rollo Reece Maywas an American existential psychologist and author of the influential book Love and Will (1969). He is often associated with humanistic psychology and existentialist philosophy, and alongside Viktor Frankl, was a major proponent of existential psychotherapy.

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The opposite of courage in our society is not cowardice, it is conformity.

Rollo May

American psychologist (1909-1994)

Communication leads to community, that is, to understanding, intimacy and mutual valuing.

Rollo May

American psychologist (1909-1994)

If you do not express your own original ideas, if you do not listen to your own being, you will have betrayed yourself.

Rollo May

American psychologist (1909-1994)

Human freedom involves our capacity to pause, to choose the one response toward which we wish to throw our weight.

Rollo May

American psychologist (1909-1994)

Joy, rather than happiness, is the goal of life, for joy is the emotion which accompanies our fulfilling our natures as human beings. It is based on the experience of one’s identity as a being of worth and dignity.

Rollo May

American psychologist (1909-1994)

It requires greater courage to preserve inner freedom, to move on in one’s inward journey into new realms, than to stand defiantly for outer freedom. It is often easier to play the martyr, as it is to be rash in battle.

Rollo May

American psychologist (1909-1994)

The relationship between commitment and doubt is by no means an antagonistic one. Commitment is healthiest when it’s not without doubt but in spite of doubt.

Rollo May

American psychologist (1909-1994)

Hate is not the opposite of love; apathy is.

Rollo May

American psychologist (1909-1994)

Freedom is man’s capacity to take a hand in his own development. It is our capacity to mold ourselves.

Rollo May

American psychologist (1909-1994)

One does not become fully human painlessly.

Rollo May

American psychologist (1909-1994)

Courage is not the absence of despair; it is, rather, the capacity to move ahead in spite of despair.

Rollo May

American psychologist (1909-1994)

Creativity is not merely the innocent spontaneity of our youth and childhood; it must also be married to the passion of the adult human being, which is a passion to live beyond one’s death.

Rollo May

American psychologist (1909-1994)

It is an ironic habit of human beings to run faster when we have lost our way.

Rollo May

American psychologist (1909-1994)

Life comes from physical survival; but the good life comes from what we care about.

Rollo May

American psychologist (1909-1994)

Depression is the inability to construct a future.

Rollo May

American psychologist (1909-1994)

Care is a state in which something does matter; it is the source of human tenderness.

Rollo May

American psychologist (1909-1994)