I was darkly convinced that at age 52 I would kill myself because my mother committed suicide at that age. I was fantasizing that she was waiting for me on the other side of the grave.

Meaning of the quote

The quote suggests that Spalding Gray, an American actor, believed he would take his own life when he turned 52 years old. This belief came from the fact that his mother had died by suicide at that same age. He even imagined that his mother was waiting for him on the other side of death, as if she had planned their reunion.

About Spalding Gray

Spalding Gray was an American actor, novelist, playwright, screenwriter, and performance artist known for his autobiographical monologues that were later adapted into films. He achieved renown for works like “Swimming to Cambodia” and “Gray’s Anatomy”, but tragically passed away by suicide at the age of 62 after struggling with depression and injuries from a car accident.

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