Narcissism and self-deception are survival mechanisms without which many of us might just jump off a bridge.

Meaning of the quote

The writer is saying that being a little self-centered and tricking ourselves can help us stay alive. Without these habits, many people might feel so hopeless that they would try to hurt themselves. Having some narcissism and self-deception can actually protect us from feeling too much pain or despair.

About Todd Solondz

Todd Solondz is an American filmmaker and playwright known for his dark, socially conscious satire that reflects on the “dark underbelly of middle class American suburbia.” His acclaimed works include films like Welcome to the Dollhouse, Happiness, and Wiener-Dog.

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I mean, there are many other directors who are probably both more skilled and excited to adapt novels or work within certain genre conventions. I’d like to do that kind of work someday, but for better or worse I’m too drawn by my own material.

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I admit there’s an element of brutality in all my work – it’s part of the truth about human existence I always want to explore – but the last thing I’m trying to do is put on some kind of freak show, inviting people to get off on other people’s pain and humiliation.

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The ability to take pleasure in one’s life is a skill and is a kind of intelligence. So intelligence is a hard thing to evaluate and it manifests itself in so many different ways. I do think the ability to know how to live a life and not be miserable is a sign of that.

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Like everything, what compels one to put pen to paper is a great question.

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Part of it has to do with this business of being approached in public. I have a distinctive look – it’s partly the glasses I wear – and people seem to remember me once they’ve seen me.

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When part of what you’re trying to get at is the truth hidden under a taboo, or when you want to nail a hypocrisy, laughter is a very useful tool. I want to show the painful side of existence, but there is no question I also want to make people laugh.

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But you’re right, I did think about acting more and then decided against it.

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Well, so far, at least, my own ideas always take priority over those of other writers. As long as the well doesn’t run dry, I imagine this will be the case.

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