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Deborah Tannen
American
Sociologist
About the author
Each underestimates her own power and overestimates the other's.
Deborah Tannen,
American
Sociologist
#Power
Each person's life is lived as a series of conversations.
Deborah Tannen,
American
Sociologist
#Life
Communication is a continual balancing act, juggling the conflicting needs for intimacy and independence. To survive in the world, we have to act in concert with others, but to survive as ourselves, rather than simply as cogs in a wheel, we have to act alone.
Deborah Tannen,
American
Sociologist
#World
#Independence
#Needs
#Act
#Communication
#Intimacy
We all know we are unique individuals, but we tend to see others as representatives of groups.
Deborah Tannen,
American
Sociologist
We tend to look through language and not realize how much power language has.
Deborah Tannen,
American
Sociologist
#Power
#Language
The biggest mistake is believing there is one right way to listen, to talk, to have a conversation - or a relationship.
Deborah Tannen,
American
Sociologist
#Talk
#Right
#Conversation
#Mistake
Relationships are made of talk - and talk is for girls and women.
Deborah Tannen,
American
Sociologist
#Relationships
#Talk
#Women
#Girls
For most women, the language of conversation is primarily a language of rapport: a way of establishing connections and negotiating relationships.
Deborah Tannen,
American
Sociologist
#Relationships
#Language
#Conversation
#Women